'I can't afford my sister's wedding abroad – but she told me I'm being selfish' – The Mirror
A woman who told her sister she couldn’t afford her destination wedding was branded ‘selfish’ and was told she was prioritising her finances over her sister’s happiness
Weddings can be the perfect time for families to come together for celebrations. It's well-known that weddings can be extremely expensive, so many guests will be more than happy to pay for certain parts of the big day.
But one woman has admitted she can't afford to attend her sister's destination wedding as the bride and groom have asked for the guests to pay for their travel and accommodation. Due to saving for a house, the woman feels torn about not attending the tropical wedding and has been slammed as "selfish" and "prioritising her own financial goals" over her sister's happiness.
"My sister recently announced that she's having a destination wedding in a tropical paradise. Sounds amazing, right? Well, here's the catch: she expects everyone to pay for their own travel and accommodations. Now, I love my sister and want to support her, but attending this wedding would be a huge financial burden for me," she wrote on Reddit as she asked others if she was in the wrong for refusing to attend the big day.
Admitting it would be a struggle for her to attend and fork out the costs to be there, she was met with disappointment from her younger sister who was clearly upset she wouldn't be going. Despite saving for a deposit on a house, her sister accused her of "not caring about her happiness".
The post further detailed: "I've been saving up for a down payment on a house, and the cost of the trip would set me back significantly. When I told my sister that I couldn't afford to go, she got really upset and accused me of not caring about her happiness. She even said that I'm being selfish for prioritising my financial goals over her big day.
"I tried explaining my situation and suggesting alternative ways to celebrate her wedding, like throwing her a local reception or helping with wedding planning, but she wasn't having any of it. Yesterday, I found out she had been telling our extended family, who were also going to the wedding, that I had refused to pay for my share and told her that she was a "snobby brat" for making everyone pray for themselves to go to her wedding.
"My phone has been blowing up with texts and calls either defending me or calling me rude, a brat or selfish. Now I'm feeling guilty and torn. On one hand, I don't want to miss my sister's special day, but on the other hand, I don't want to sacrifice my financial stability. AITA for refusing to attend her destination wedding?"
Other Redditors were quick to chime in and reassure the woman she wasn't in the wrong, as one user commented: "There is one and only rule for having a destination wedding: If you aren't paying for everything then you can not even be mildly upset when someone declines to come," whilst another added: "When did it become everyone else's responsibility to put aside their financial or for that matter lives just because somebody’s getting married? If you can’t afford it, you absolutely do not need to go."
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