'My husband gets up early with kids, then just scrolls on phone – I'm furious' – The Mirror
A pregnant mum was left fuming at her husband after she found out what he’d been doing between 5am and 7am with her other kids when she was getting some extra sleep
Ensuring you and your partner share the load when it comes to childcare is really important – but one woman was so sick of her husband's morning habit and reached the end of her tether with him.
The woman explained that she was "heavily pregnant", so she was worried she was being "hormonal", but wanted some advice on whether her husband was doing anything wrong or not.
She shared that her husband was getting up in the morning early so she could get an "extra one or two hours of sleep", which sounded good in theory, but she wasn't happy with what he was doing with her three and one-year-old when she was still sleeping, as she thought it was teaching them bad habits.
She took to Mumsnet to explain the situation, writing: "My husband has been getting up early with our small children throughout my pregnancy. Amazing – what a great dad. So helpful for me to have an extra 1-2 hours in bed. Right?
"Except that I've just learned that day in, day out, he is, from 5am to 7am, just watching YouTube videos on his phone. And they are short videos, 2-3 mins long (eg about football or TV shows or films). So it's not something he has on in the background (which to be honest I also wouldn't find ideal as one and three -year-olds need supervision and attention and it isn't setting the best example/they aren't allowed screen time in the morning). He has just been actively doom-scrolling and watching stuff for hours on end, for months."
The woman said that "this just isn't parenting" to her, and she said she'd explained to him that she "didn't think this was alright" and she'd rather do it herself if he couldn't be bothered and "he said he understood and agreed" so she "trusted him not to do it", so was gutted when she found out that he was "all along."
The stay-at-home mum finished her post by penning: "I totally get some people have different bars for what they do/let their children do and I am not judging for that but am I being unreasonable to think I should be able to trust my husband to do what we f**king agreed with our children?!
"I feel like an idiot I would have rather been up at 5am myself. It explains a lot of things too like my son having a bump etc and him not knowing how it happened, or me sometimes waking up to hear my son communicating but not able to hear my husband responding for several minutes."
In the comments, some people said they thought the mum was being unreasonable, asking why they were up so early. One wrote: "I had two early risers. Anything it takes to get you through to 7am is fair game and doesn't count as normal parenting!" Another agreed with the mum though, saying: "You are not being unreasonable and I'd be fuming too. It's a p**s poor effort on his part."
"If I was getting up at 5am while my husband lay in bed for another 2 hours I would be mightily annoyed if he started dictating to me what I should do with that time. 5am rises are hell and there are another 12 or so hours on their days to be doing productive stuff with/for them. Sorry, but I think you're being unreasonable here", someone shared.
Another defended the mum, however, by replying: "No she isn't. I've seen videos of child psychologists talking about how harmful it is to very young children to have a parent just stare at an object and not engage with them at all. The child has no idea why they’re being ignored, it's cold and neglectful to them."
Do you have a story to share? Email: danielle.wroe@mirror.co.uk.
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