Woman confesses that daughter's brother is actually her father in decades old secret – Daily Record

July 29, 2023 ndowd

A woman asked for help in sharing a shocking family secret to her daughter she has kept for years from her.
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A woman has let a shocking family secret out of the closet after revealing her daughter's older 'half-brother' is actually her biological father.
The woman and her husband were struggling to have children after tying the knot, she told The Atlantic's Dear Therapist column, as her husband's vasectomy could no longer be reversed.
Her husband had two children with another woman before they met and to make sure their child looked like them, they came up with an unorthodox solution and kept their daughter's true conception a secret for three decades, reports The Mirror.
The anonymous woman wrote: "We didn't want to use a sperm bank, so we asked my husband's son to be the donor.
"We felt that was the best decision: Our child would have my husband's genes, and we knew my stepson's health, personality, and intelligence. He agreed to help.
"Our daughter is 30 now. How do we tell her that her "father" is her grandfather, her "brother" is her father, her "sister" is her aunt, and her "nephew" is her half-brother?"
The woman asked for advice as she and her husband are "anxious, confused, and worried" about telling their daughter, not knowing how she'll react to the truth.
"This is also hard on my husband, because he wants our daughter to know that he will always and forever be her father," she added.
Columnist Lori Gottlieb, who is a qualified psychotherapist, told the mum to quietly sit her daughter down and "state the facts as simply and clearly as possible" before apologising.
Urging her to "take full responsibility" for keeping the truth from her for 30 years, Gottlieb says she should allow her daughter to dominate the conversation.
She also urged her to speak to the 'brother' beforehand so he isn't blindsided by her reaction. Gottlieb said it won't be easy but but it is important she knows the truth.