Man calls off engagement after fiancée's bizarre remark about his late wife – The Mirror
People are outraged by her comments regarding the man’s last wife, who was tragically killed by a drunk driver three years earlier, and have reached out to share their advice
Losing the love of your life is one of the most painful experiences you can endure. The loss can be so utterly overwhelming that it's hard to see how you will ever heal and live your life again.
For some people, Cupid's arrow does strike again and they find love for the second time. And that was the case for one man, who got engaged three years after his wife was tragically killed by a drunk driver.
He is a father to two from his marriage, to a 21-year-old son and a 16-year-old daughter. While they aren't particularly close to his new partner, called Amanda*, they have been friendly and welcoming, the man says Amanda has never overstepped any boundaries by trying to replace their mother.
Taking to Reddit, the man noted: "At the beginning of Amanda and I's relationship, she was a bit insecure of the fact that I was a widower. During the first few months of us dating she would constantly ask things like, 'if Kayla had never passed, would I still be with her right now'. I always kept my answers brief, and told her that I didn't like thinking about the 'what ifs' and that she was the one I was dating now and that was what mattered. Eventually she stopped making these comments and I stopped worrying about it."
But now everything has come to a head after a recent family dinner, with the man admitting he has since called off not only the engagement, but the entire relationship. He revealed that his parents hosted an engagement party for the couple, with his two children in attendance as well as his late wife's sister and her husband.
"About half way into dinner my mom made a comment about how she was 'so happy I was able to find the spark I had with Kayla in someone else'. I don't think anybody really paid much attention to the comment but then Amanda laughed and said, 'I'm happy she died, otherwise I would have never gotten him to myself.'
"The tone of the dinner immediately shifted and everyone got extremely tense, especially my kids. Amanda noticed the shift and started awkwardly laughing like she was trying to play her comment off as a joke. I was honestly just frozen as that was the first time she had made a comment like that. My kids looked disgusted and Liz got up and walked out to the car."
In a subsequent update, the man revealed the impact of her words on his children had led him to end the relationship for good. His post was quickly inundated with comments, with the majority of people expressing outrage at the situation.
One said: "My husband passed away, if anyone said anything like that it would not go over well. You are right though, she does believe she's competing with a dead woman, and that kind of insecurity is hard to get past."
A second agreed. "She could've said something like 'it was an unfortunate event for all of you but I think she was the one who brought us together to be there for each other'. She could've gone in any other way but she decided to allow her insecurities get in the way because she knew if Kayla didn't pass, [you] wouldn't have been with her. She has always been competing with a dead woman and will continue to do so."
And a third urged: "Tbh her early, stupid comments about 'if she hasn't died would you still be with her' would have been relationship-ending for me. I mean… Obviously yes, I would be?! And how dare you?! This woman is not equipped to be your wife. Please end it."
*Names were changed by the man who shared his story on Reddit to protect privacy
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